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my parents are awesome.  sure it’s taken me almost 26 years to appreciate them, but nevertheless, better late than never.  last weekend i was supposed to go up to the bay for a family outing in sf.  this was in the calendar for weeks and i was all set to go until my manager calls me a day before and tells me i have a meeting with an agent (i’m getting a new commercial agent because my old one is leaving her agency due to internal turmoil within that agency — she doesn’t want to work for a shady owner in which i respect, but leaves me with no agency representation) on a saturday afternoon, the saturday right smack in the middle of my bay trip. 😦 i couldn’t find a ride out after the meeting so i couldn’t go back to the bay.

i was really upset when i realized my trip wasn’t going to happen and i called my mom to let her know.  she was wonderful about it.  she said every opportunity matters and that she and my dad understood.  she said i can always come home whenevers.

that’s so sweet.  even thinking about it makes me feel loved.

i had some friends ask me once, “are your parents proud of you?”  in which i answered, “not yet.”  my parents worked really hard to get to the states, my dad fighting in the war, my mom staying in refugee camps.  with the help of my aunt on my mom’s side, they managed to find each other and rent out a one bedroom apartment in good ole east side san jose.  my dad’s first job was a janitor and my mom’s was a teacher’s assistant for many years. because it was such a struggle, they wanted their kids to have a secure and successful life.  so of course my mom pushed me and my sisters to be scientists, doctors, dentists, etc (the asian american dream).

but here’s where they fucked up.  my mom was a teacher and brought home tons of books, especially music and art books.  my dad was a computer techie and brought home huge empty computer cardboard boxes and lucasarts computer games (role playing games that were rich in characters and story.  my all time favorite is monkey island and i will name my first dog guybrush threepwood).  they took us to museums, made us take piano lessons, encouraged reading and movie watching (ie indiana jones and star wars).  with a one bedroom apartment, my parents had to be creative in thinking how to use their space to raise 3 girls.  thus the 3 story bunk bed (picture above).  that in itself was utopia for imagination.  we laid blue sheets and blankets on the carpet and draped it off the first story bed and pretended it was a pool or the ocean.  underneath the makeshift desk was our hidden cave.  we draped a beach towel over the bunk bed ladder and it became a mail chute where we delivered old valentine cards.  we used lawn chairs, the cardboard boxes, and a toy clock to make a time machine.

so it was no surprise that i’m trying to do the acting thing, my hipster sister doing the starving artist thing (typical of hipsterdom: she recently graduated with a BA in fine arts), and my youngest sister, a senior in hs is contemplating between being an engineer or a musician (she was the best out of us 3 on the piano).  my mom actually says that the youngest sister is her last hope — she rather my sister became an engineer.  hahaha

so no, my parents are not proud of me yet.  it’s not that they’re ashamed of me either.  they’re just worried.  my mom especially.  i think she’s in denial of what i’m doing with my life and thinks it’s just a phase.  my dad is a fan, but only in “secret,” he’ll ask me about my progress and just listen nothing more.

here’s the thing: i want to make my parents proud.  they worked really hard to get where they’re at and it’s admirable: my mom’s a teacher with tenure, my dad is an engineer, and they live in a 4 bedroom house that they own in the suburbs of san jose.  they made it where my sisters and i can choose to be a starving artist.  however, i want to succeed not for the fame or fortune or whatever that may mean, but to succeed would justify their struggle and hard work.  i want to succeed for them.

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Author: MsThiNguyen

Thi Nguyen likes Netflix on rainy days, fervent discussions on crime mysteries and anything Star Wars. She is highly inspired to learn from all walks of life and is driven to work with passionate and creative people. Check out her creative process/progress and her videos at www.msthinguyen.com.

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